Incoming ramble post, TL;DR just roll a dice.

To remove indecision you need to fully understand why you’d want to. The purpose of removing indecision from your daily thought process is for the sole fact that you can have a right, and you can have a wrong. Not both, and not neither. The opposite of wrong is right and the opposite of right is clearly wrong. But what is the opposite of indecision? Both choices? Moreover, why is it wrong to be indecisive in ANY situation even if you don’t have all the facts and you could be wrong? In programming the way we make design choices relies on having an intuitive and functional interface. These aren’t personal decisions, they are fact-based. I could drone on about heuristics and reciprocal altruism all day but you get the idea.

Let me give you an example.

 

Pick a color, any color at all from the visible spectrum.

Yeah, yeah… I get it, you didn’t pick the color red because you thought I was tricking you by influencing you in the most primitive way possible. Did I trick you? How would you even know? I’m sure you chose a color that WASN’T red (or no color at all). So I just forced you to NOT pick red, but your choice was free right? You could pick red if you really wanted to right? You like the color red much better now that I appear more mean for “forcing” you, I mean, even if you didn’t like the color red you’d still like it more than someone trying to influence you. Red didn’t do shit to you.

The big idea of not choosing sides just to either not be wrong or not look biased is completely biased and wrong in and of itself [insert ironic word here]. Consider the fact that people associate opinions with bias. The more of an opinion someone has about something shows exactly how much they are willing to invest in a conversation. So why do people go through such trouble just to connect their opinion with experience and then relay them as advice or information?

The type of people I’m talking about here are those that choose to start their sentence with “Well for ME…” or “In MY experience… “. The absolute basics of giving solid advice would be to properly give the person a different perspective of the SAME scenario, not the SAME perspective of a similar situation so it would feel unbiased. Your not a box full of morals yourself anyway.

The whole idea a person asks for advice is to get an outside take on the problem. Not the same take on a similar problem. People misjudge when being asked for advice. They feel like they need to find a new experience in their arsenal which the person can relate to, so that they’d be a lot more open minded. Unfortunately, the whole reason they need to talk in the first place is because of their tunnel vision (weird eh?). They know their options, they know their consequences and outcomes. They just want a bias to push them to do what they already wanted to do but didn’t have enough motivation for. That’s called indecision… or what I like to call a disaster waiting to happen.

The art of truly being decisive is getting rid of all the personal bias that keep you leaning towards one end. This isn’t to be mistaken with information, however. People tend to weigh personal bias higher than facts if they ever conflict each other….

How do you solve this? Well i’ve found a crude but functional way. I roll dice. A six sided die makes for a very functional decision maker. Now relax, this isn’t me just using a magic 8 ball to make life decisions. I roll some dice when I run into a decision that I cannot solve with logic or heuristics. Usually that pretty much just means I have issues solving social or emotional problems. I commit to rolling dice in terms of always dividing up the possible outcomes to the choices I can make, and fully stick to the choice even if I didn’t like it.

If you flipped a coin exactly the same way everyday for a month, you’d notice that one side comes up more often. That’s not a bias. What is it? It’s time. Keep flipping it for a year and it’ll start to even out. Does that mean our decisions will even out?

Decision = Indecision? I don’t know, I can’t decide.

~ q

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